Recently, I interviewed Zan, a future bride and a friend of Boston Mobile Dance Studio. Zan is an inspiration to all future brides, and we wanted to hear more about her approach to wedding prep; getting in shape and getting ready for her wedding.
Listen to our podcast or read the interview here.
Carl: Hi Zan, we are so happy that you agreed to this interview. As you already know, our main goal here is to empower other brides on their road to getting in shape. But, when we say “getting in shape for your wedding” we don’t mean so much the physical aspect of losing weight and toning the body, we’re actually more focused on the emotional and mental aspect of the wedding prep. Just having fun.
In my line of work I see around 80 weddings a year. I’ve seen brides get extremely obsessed with the idea of looking slim and stunning in their beautiful white dresses. Actually, to the point that it becomes overwhelming and drains a lot of valuable energy. But it shouldn’t be this way, I think that brides should be empowered to love themselves, to love their bodies and to feel good. To make it a great experience where you’re spending time and loving your partner and having a good time.
So can you please tell us something about your wedding prep experience Zan?
Zan: In terms of distressing, my new husband and I like to go for walks together. That’s a good distresser. It gives you that feeling of strength to prepare, mentally and emotionally. We like to walk and talk, and unwind that way.
I also love to go to your dance class, and work it out on the dance floor. That’s the highlight of my week, I try to do it as often as I can get there. It’s such a change from everything else I’m doing the whole week. That one hour of dance class, I forget everything else and all I do is just dance. To me, that’s worth more than gold.
Carl: I remember the first time you came to our dance class. It was great to see that smile on your face. It’s encouraging to see when someone is smiling and having a good time during my dance class. It’s so good to see people smiling and giving good energy to each other. Contagious energy!
What activities do you take part in, during your wedding prep?
Zan: Like I said, I do a lot of walking. I like to walk. I walk from home to work and to school. I do a lot of meditating. It might not be everybody’s cup of tea, but it’s a good way to start the day. It helps me to have a positive mind set. It sets the tone for the rest of the day. Just as physical activity, meditation is also good for your body.
As I mentioned, I love to dance at your classes. I also spend a lot of quality time with my new family. Getting to know and love them is really important to me.
Carl: Meditation is definitely important. I’ve been learning a lot about it lately. It really helps you let the dust settle and get more clarity.
Zan: Yes, things look different after 15 minutes of meditation, it’s amazing.
How do you feel preparing for your wedding?
Zan: I feel a lot of excitement and anticipation. It’s going to be a small wedding. But I really want people to have a good time, to feel the joy and the love my husband and I have for each other. And first and foremost, I want to have a good time myself.
Speaking in terms of “getting in shape”, do you have any simple goals?
Zan: My first goal is to not go bananas. So it’s about stress management. Something that helps me feel calm, cool and collected. That’s very different for me, rather than being overly focused on being tight here and firm there, I want to feel comfortable in my own skin and happy with my mental state.
So, you are also more focused on enjoying the ride and having fun. What advice would you give other future brides?
Zan: To be grateful for the good things, to not sweat the small stuff and to treat yourself exquisitely well. I think sometimes women put themselves last on the list. We tend to take care of everybody else before we take care of ourselves. Or we think, after I have a child I’ll take care of my body. We like to give everybody else the best treatment and we get the seconds or thirds, and everybody else is doing well. I like the metaphor, sometimes you have to put your own oxygen mask on first, before you help anybody else.
Carl: What I hear there also is, enjoy the moment, life is short and live in the moment. That’s great advice!
What do you think about other brides’ obsessions to look their best for their wedding day?
I think that sometimes the obsession comes from wanting to look like someone else. Like, I wish I could look like Beyonce or like someone else from a picture in a bridal magazine. It can get depressing when you start to focus that way. Something that really helps, is focusing on what you have that’s special about you. And to focus on what makes you unique and wonderful. To take out all of that mental comparison out of the equation. So you’re not focused on images of other people or images of an ideal. To focus on what you’ve got. Because someone fell in love with you and loves what you’ve got.
Carl: Nice. I can tell you’ve been meditating, I love your clarity!
My next question was going to be; any words of wisdom? But all the things you’ve just said are really wise. The same goes for grooms too. To focus more on having a good time rather than just going along and stressing out.
Thank you so much for coming out and talking to us about your wedding prep. You’ve reminded me a lot about how important it is to focus on your well-being and on spending time with the one you love.